Celebration of Hope Walk

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Join us in supporting anyone affected by addiction.

When:  Saturday, October 3, 2015

 Registration begins at 8 am

Where:  Seaside Heights, NJ  Hiering Avenue on the Beach

Distance:  2 miles

Cost: FREE (a $10 donation is suggested)

Rain Date:  Saturday, October 10, 2015

 Updates will be posted on our Facebook page.

Join us to raise awareness and support those affected by addiction. This walk will feature entertainment, vendors and inspirational speakers. Each registered participant will receive a free T-shirt at the walk. Registration will also be available onsite at the event.

 

 

The Game of Life

The Game of Life

By:

Adam Glasgow

 

I have come to the conclusion that life is a game, an emotional, physical, and mental tug of war

A game you only get one chance to play. You can choose to play the game in many different ways. See, the game goes on, even if you want to play or not. That’s what most people fail to realize. See, if you just ride the bench the game passes quickly and you are just a speed bump in the road of life, a blur, non-entity.

A wisp of wind that never touched anything or anyone, that never made a leaf fall, or never made any waves. It’s like you were never seen, you were just a passing breeze.

 

Maybe you tickled the back of someone’s neck at some point, but you certainly never lived, really lived, loved, hurt, cried, laughed, hated and most of all tried. Do you want to look back on your life and be known as a hurricane or a light wind in the night? Tell me!!

It’s not about being noticed, but it’s about being alive, living for the moment, appreciating the pain, anticipating the love and harboring the courage to step up to the plate every day, every minute and every second. I can tell you that you will strike out often, you are going to have bad games but you must cherish the pain and compare it to the big scope of things, the big picture, it will make you appreciate the good games even more.

The great experiences, your first love, your girlfriend’s eyes, babies’ feet. All the little stuff we take for granted, all God’s little gifts. Little things, everything has meaning!! Enjoy everything!!! Enjoy your game!!

Notice an extra freckle in someone’s eye. Notice how a flower turns toward the sun, notice the smell of the grass!! Notice everything, and hate it or love it. Just notice it and notice it with passion.

 

I challenge you to be passionate every day. Be passionately in love with God, your wife, your girlfriend, something, someone. Live!!! Play the game with all you have!!! Don’t let anyone or anything put you on the bench!!

See, it’s all a game and you have the choice to play hard, passionately and by the rules or sit on the bench and watch. Remember, at the end it’s doesn’t matter if you win or lose but how you played the game.

What do you want??? Do you want to come to play? I challenge you to get in the game today!!!!!

 

Early AA /From the Foreword to the second edition, pg xx Big Book

Of Alcoholics who came to A.A and really tried, 50% got sober at once and remained that way; 25% sobered up after some relapses, and among the remainder those who stayed on with AA showed an improvement.  Other thousands came to a few AA meetings and at first decided they did not want the program but a great numbers of these (about 2 out of 3) began to return as time passed.

Pretty staggering statistics…   “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path”.

What is a common challenge cited by patients early in recovery?

One of the biggest challenges I see patients confront is learning how to manage their emotions in healthier or more effective ways without turning to substance use or other behaviors as the primary way of coping.

In early recovery, self-regulation is a good core capacity to develop, because a recovering addict’s long-time go-to strategies for dealing with day-to-day occurrences, significant life events, relationship complexities, and so forth is to engage in some form of addictive behavior to deal with the feelings and reactions that come up. Learning to self-regulate emotion is a significant task when those primary modes of coping are no longer available, and a lot of people struggle with learning how to tolerate strong emotions and react effectively to them rather than anesthetize themselves or try to eliminate the feelings they don’t like. This is a really significant component of the work done in early recovery.

Beyond that, in terms of what I hear people cite, a lot of it relates to coming to terms with the full gravity of the life circumstances people find themselves in and beginning to look at the extent to which changes are needed to support long-term recovery in various different aspects of life – addressing longstanding issues in relationships, coming to terms with unresolved conflicts or traumas, evaluating day-to-day habits and the extent to which drinking or using became a central component, looking at routines throughout the day/week, understanding and learning how to deal with triggers or situations that activate the person emotionally, dealing with family members or friends who are unsupportive of the person’s recovery or are engaged in their own addictions, etc. – all oriented to modifying the different structures and aspects of life to support a new way of being.

The process of coming to an awareness of the extent of these issues, and the steps required in treatment and recovery to address the issues and modify life, is a significant challenge that people tend to confront early on. How they navigate all those things becomes the long-term path they take in treatment and recovery, and it helps shape the different resources that the person can utilize for assistance.

From: INTERVIEW WITH IAN WOLDS, PSYD: THE UPS AND DOWNS OF SOBRIETY

Rebuilding Trust During Recovery

People in early recovery often raise some variation of the following issue at group sessions:

“I’ve been sober for 6 months and my mother still doesn’t trust me to be on my own. She thinks that if I spend a single day out of her sight I will pick up a bottle again.”

You cannot force trust; it will take time and patience to restore. Think back and try to understand how your drinking has affected your loved ones. They will need to process everything you have been through together and go through their own healing. While you walk through your recovery, don’t lose sight of these 3 important details to help you rebuild trust:

Accept and Forgive

Turn your focus inward and start work on bettering yourself. You should be practicing forgiveness with yourself and others, now is the time for healing. While it is true that rebuilding trust in recovery means taking a hard look at your own behavior, you need to realize that you cannot control the actions or reactions of others. You must learn to accept this because letting go of that control is an important step in your recovery.

The same is true about waiting for apologies from those who have wronged you. Forgive them, and move on.

Show. Don’t Just Tell

The old adage “Actions speak louder than words” may ring a bell. You have probably heard something similar from an addictions counselor.During recovery you must use actions, instead of just words, to start restoring trust.

Use every opportunity you can to show that your behavior has changed. Don’t expect immediate results, be patient and your loved ones will notice your positive pattern.

Be Patient

Some people will take longer to come around than others, and that’s okay. If they want to rekindle a relationship with you, they will do so on their own time.

Rebuilding trust in relationships takes time, but it will happen. Walk your road and lead by positive example. Your new patterns and habits will have incredible effects on your life and relationships.

WRITTEN BY

Kathleen Esposito is a certified addictions counselor in the Pacific Northwest. She helps individuals recover from drug, alcohol and gambling dependencies through group and individual therapy and regularly speaks at treatment centers.

Five-signs-your-child-using-heroin

SIGN #1

Pieces of drug paraphernalia are clues. Heroin users are often equipped with syringes, pipes, dirty spoons and lighters used for preparing the drug for injection, or belts or rubber tubing to enlarge veins.

SIGN #2

A heroin user typically has constricted pupils, dry mouth and flushed skin.

SIGN #3

Users may fade in and out of consciousness, or fall asleep suddenly. When awake, the person may think unclearly, have some memory loss, and show changes in decision making and self control.

SIGN #4

Needle marks on the skin are also telltale signs. Frequent injectors may always wear long-sleeve shirts to hide the marks.

SIGN #5

Users also may suffer from itching, nausea and vomiting, as well as constipation. Skin infections and lowered immunity to illness are also common.