Prayer and Meditation

What really is prayer and meditation? Well, I guess it depends on who you ask. I was raised Catholic and I was told to pray to God for things that I wanted. Well, after much thought, I realized, “Doesn’t God already know what I want?” They were basically saying that if I didn’t “pray” to God, He would be clueless as to my desires. That is ridiculous! Of course “God” or the “Universal Mind” or whatever you want to call the All That Is knows my desires! It knows it before I know it!

Prayer and MeditationPrayer is this: It is the direct application of our energy towards a goal, whether that be to acquire something or bring about a desired state (like praying for someone else to be healed). Quite simply, prayer is the directing of our energy. This is no different than the manifestation techniques I use to manifest my reality. When we go about our lives mildly wanting and wishing for things, our energy is like a light bulb for it is going out in 100 different directions and is almost useless. When we “pray” or purposely use manifestation techniques, we turn that same scattered energy into an exponentially more powerful energy laser. God already knows what you want, but you have to apply yourself and ask for it with energy defined by will and passion. In fact, the more passionately and fervently you wish for something, the greater the energy will be directed towards that goal. This is why I specifically state that the will power must be increased in order to manifest effectively. I also encourage you to create written goals, as those are “prayers on paper.” You can’t direct your thoughts if you don’t even know what you want and articulate them. What do you want? Ịs it written down? Are you directing your will and passion towards it?

On the other hand, meditation is the art of quieting the inner noise in the mind to allow the higher self to “descend” into your consciousness. Every moment of your life, your higher self (or God or whatever) is sending you messages about life, yourself, and the universe, but because the noise in your head is so loud and constant, you rarely hear it. By going within, quieting the chatter, you will start to experience such things as psychic messages, bi-location, parallel dimensions and more. You will start to broaden your sense of “self” and realize that you are more than your physical body and in fact, have no real boundaries! Eventually, you will experience the God state and be one with all things. Meditation mixed with things like prayer, light work or affirmations increase results in those areas as well. Meditation can be a primer for any of those things.

Mediation and prayer are our natural tools to create and experience life more fully. Learn them, use them and expand your life.

Most Popular Addiction Triggers

June 16, 2015

So after years of trying, you’ve finally managed to get clean and sober. While you are rightfully feeling pretty good about yourself, the hard part, staying sober, actually begins now.Many addicts relapse for a variety of reasons. Here are 5 of the most common triggers for both newly recovering addicts and those with years of sobriety under their belt.

1. Holidays

This is a very common reason for relapse and one to be wary of at certain times of the year. The temptation to indulge can be enormous when the world and his wife appear to be imbibing and getting into the swing of festivities.

It is vital as a recovering addict that we put measures in place to guard against what can seem like overwhelming temptation. What can help strengthen our resolve is telling our loved ones if we are feeling vulnerable, having someone to look out for us and to whom we can be accountable. Whenever possible, avoid situations that may encourage your relapse. Speak to your recovery group or sponsor if you have one. Remember to always be prepared, use the tools you learned in rehab and remind yourself of what you were like before you got sober.

2. Stress

Whether it’s about work, financial concerns or relationship worries, we all have times when we experience stress and need to work harder to maintain our recovery. Stress is one of the biggest reasons people reach for their substance of choice—wanting to take a break from reality for a short space of time.

Learning to manage our stress in more productive ways will guard it from causing a relapse. You can do this by exercising regularly, sleeping well and eating a healthy diet. Some meditation, time out for yourself and willingness to ask for support during a stressful situation can do wonders in reducing your stress levels and preventing it from becoming a trigger.

3. Tiredness

Being tired and cranky leaves us feeling emotional and more susceptible to a relapse. When we’re tired, we become like cantankerous children—snappy, irritable and unreasonable. This is the perfect set of emotions that can lead to us blowing our serenity and reaching for our old coping strategies.

The importance of getting a regular night’s sleep cannot be overemphasized.

Maintaining our equilibrium and functioning in a calm and thoughtful manner is pivotal when it comes to staying sober. If you find it difficult to sleep, try breathing exercises, a hot bath or a warm milky drink before bed. If nothing seems to help, speak to your doctor.

4. Boredom

Boredom is one of the most common feelings in early recovery that can lead to a relapse. Once we are over the “pink cloud” of our initial achievement, we often struggle to find activities that fill the huge amount of time we used to spend abusing substances. Now that we are no longer using, the amount of drama in our lives is vastly reduced. This is when boredom sets in.

You have to put effort in finding new activities to fill the time you spent using your substance of choice. This can be anything, including sports, exercise, reading, a new hobby, watching TV, journaling, tidying up around the house or something you used to enjoy before you started using. The options are virtually endless. Find something that will distract you and take your mind off the urge to use.

5. Complacency

This is one for those with longer sobriety. Complacency is a very dangerous thing. It can make us feel as though we’ve already made it to the top and cause us to relax our vigilance. Truth is, this is the time we are actually highly vulnerable to a relapse. It is crucial that you always remain vigilant, keep in touch with your support group, attend meetings if you have to–anything that reminds you of the continuous work that needs to be done in order to maintain sobriety.

Although recovery gets easier with time, it is also often easy to forget where we came from. Even many years down the line, we must always remind ourselves about the risks that come with complacency.

For as long as you remain aware of the most common causes of a relapse, you’ll be able to successfully guard your sobriety. It pays to always remember that when it comes to staying clean, your abstinence is dependent on your continued vigilance.

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10 Self-Affirmations for Recovery BY SHELBY HENDRIX

    • Self-Affirmation (n): the recognition and assertion of the existence of value of one’s individual self.

During recovery, your mental health is equally as important as your physical health. Practicing activities like mindfulness and daily self-affirmations can boost confidence, calm nerves, and develop mental strength. Positive self-affirmations have been scientifically proven to reduce the stress of external threats and improve performance.

If you’re going through a rough patch, or feel like you’re stuck in a rut, self-affirmations can work wonders to reset negative thoughts, adjust your perspective, and keep you on track to healthy sobriety.

Just like yoga and meditation, setting aside a little bit of time everyday to repeat self-affirmations helps you take stock of your mental state and slow down. Slowing down to appreciate your positive attributes and extol the virtues of the person you are becoming during your journey will help you develop a more positive perspective.

Bolster your feelings of personal worth and well-being with some of these self-affirmations:

  1. Every day, in every way, I am getting better.
  2. I can and I will.
  3. I will be a better me.
  4. I am worthy of great things.
  5. I like the person I’m becoming.
  6. All of my problems have a solution.
  7. I press on because I believe in my path.
  8. The past has no power over me anymore.
  9. I have many strengths.
  10. I am in charge of my life story.


You are, of course, not limited to these affirmations. Build upon the core values you learned while in treatment, or start looking for phrases and sayings that resonate with you personally and record them in a journal.

Your affirmations should mean something to you and they should be for your reasonable for you journey. Don’t wake up in the morning and tell yourself you have to be perfect, you don’t need that kind of unnecessary pressure. Tell yourself instead that you will be better, and you will continue to do your best.

Make your self-affirmations a morning ritual and before you know it, you’ll start believing what you tell yourself. Eventually, you’ll be recalling your self-affirmations automatically to help you get through any obstacles that may come up during your recovery.





Shelby Hendrix is a blogger from the Northern Midwest with close personal ties to the addiction world. She focuses on the addiction landscape to reach out to those fighting alcoholism and compel them to seek an informed, healthy recovery.

4 Steps to Deal with an Employee’s Substance Abuse Problem

If you suspect that an employee has a drug or alcohol addiction, here are four steps to help protect your business. on

By Gwen Moran

The odds of substance abuse issues finding their way into your business are sizeable. According to the Department of Health and Human Services’ 2011 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, of the 18.9 million adults classified with dependence or abuse, nearly 52 percent were employed.

“Many employers miss the signs,” says Cali Estes, a certified drug and alcohol therapist who works with companies and individuals dealing with substance abuse in the workplace and elsewhere.

Those signs can be subtle, but might include physical signs like bloodshot eyes and residual alcohol smell. Others include excessive absences, coming to work late and leaving early. Some drugs might make the user active, so someone who is up and walking around all the time and who looks really busy, but isn’t getting anything done might be showing signs of addiction, Estes says. The National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence publishes this list of common signs.

When employees have addiction issues, it can affect the company in a number of ways, ranging from lost productivity to significant liability if an employee is drunk or high on the job and causes property damage or injury.

Every company should have a written substance use and abuse policy that prohibits using drugs or alcohol during work hours and gives the employer recourse if the employee’s performance is being affected by drug or alcohol abuse after-hours. Employees should be required to read and sign the agreement upon hire, Estes says.

And if you do suspect an employee has a problem, take these four steps.

1. Gather resources.
Most communities have substance abuse prevention agencies and resources. Check out a few local organizations to determine if they have any education materials or recommended resources for individuals dealing with substance abuse. Having a list of support groups, treatment facilities, and other resources lets you give your employee a place to start to deal with his or her issue. Make this list available to everyone in the company.

2. Explore your insurance coverage.
If you have employer-provided health insurance, call your insurance company to determine what treatment is covered and if they have recommended resources in the community. Estes says that insurance coverage can vary wildly from policy to policy, so it’s important to understand what is covered so you can encourage your employee to take the appropriate action for his or her financial circumstances.

“Checking into rehab could be a $30,000 to $50,000 expense. Getting treatment on an outpatient basis is an option and is typically much less expensive,” Estes says.

3. Consult your lawyer.
From setting your substance abuse policy to firing someone who’s used drugs on the job, you need to consult your attorney throughout the process of dealing with an addicted employee. You need to be sure your policy complies with state and federal employment laws and that any termination complies with those laws, as well, while also protecting your company from liability if the employee does damage while under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

4. Take action.
The worst thing you can do is ignore the signs of substance abuse. If you see an employee who shows common signs, you need to address the issue directly by having a private conversation with the employee in which you review the company’s policy, express your concerns, and provide any resources you’ve gathered, Estes says.

“Usually if their job is on the line, we can say, ‘If you don’t get some form of help, you’re going to get fired.’ In states where that’s in compliance with the law, that usually works”, she says.


Are Alcoholics Anonymous and the 12 Steps Really Irrational, Unscientific & Outmoded or are they Actually Vindicated by Pioneering Neuroscience? 

Spates of recent articles in the press have denounced 12 Step programs as unscientific and irrational but this is based in a lack of understanding of what creates and maintains healthy neuro-adaptation in humans.
You might think comparing Alcoholics Anonymous with more scientifically proven treatments for addiction is a bit like comparing apples and oranges. How can an eighty year old, quasi-religious movement of non-professionals possibly stand up against mainstream psychology and medicine? A recent article in the The Atlantic (April issue) asked exactly that, “The Irrationality of Alcoholics Anonymous” by Gabrielle Glaser. In her piece Glaser slams both AA and the 12 Step treatment industry as ineffective in dealing with the nation’s alcohol problems, citing medications such as Naltrexone and Antabuse as being more effective because they reduce cravings and create aversion to alcohol, rendering AA’s abstinence philosophy redundant. However, advances in the understanding of addiction are showing us that there may well be sound scientific principles at work within the social processes of AA and other 12 Step groups. To read more, click on link

Patricia Rosen 📖 Publisher at The Sober World Magazine


Triggers With the Highest Risk

Triggers With the Highest Risk

Substance Abuse TriggersIdentifying which of the recovering addict’s substance abuse triggers are being overlooked by treatment providers, friends and other 12-step group members is crucial in developing an effective recovery program.

Based on a recent study published by the Society for the Study of Addiction, situations, people or objects uniquely relevant to a person’s drug or alcohol abuse have greater impact on the recovering addict’s tendency to relapse, as compared to generally recognized elements they are taught to avoid.

Cues, or “triggers,” consist of various types of stimuli in the environment that prompt a particular behavior or increase the risk of a certain type of response.

Some cues can affect a large number of people in a number of ways. One example of a general cue setting off a reaction is public speaking which can set off anxiety in some people. Other cues, however, may be personally relevant and are specific only to one individual. The aforementioned study looks at how cues, both general and specific, affect recovering addicts’ cravings for substances such as drugs and alcohol.

A Closer Look

Drs. Melina Fatseas and Fuschia Serre, along with other authors, investigated the behaviors of 132 outpatient individuals being treated for alcohol, tobacco, cannabis or opiate addiction. Using mobile technologies, participants were questioned four times a day regarding their drug or alcohol cravings, as well as the types of cues that produced or were associated with them.

Researchers then categorized the reported intensity of each person’s cravings under general substance-specific cues and person-specific cues. General substance-specific cues, for instance, would be a heroin addict seeing a syringe. On the other hand, person-specific cues would include a meeting with a specific person whom a participant had traditionally used their substance of choice with.

Findings suggest that only person-specific cues were associated with the reported increase in cravings over the hours of the day. While general cues were also reported to set off cravings, the participants’ desires tend to dissipate. Person-specific cues, however, were linked to an ever-increasing intensity of cravings among the participants. This concludes that person-specific cues produce a much more robust effect on a person’s drug or alcohol craving than more general substance-specific cues.

The Takeaway

This information is extremely helpful for individuals recovering from some type of substance abuse disorder because they can now exercise more vigilance to remain on the path of recovery.

A recovering addict can take an inventory of person-specific situations or cues that he/she considers as a personal trigger. This may be comprised of certain people, environments and even things like particular songs or movies. Perhaps it will even include going to a favorite bar, arguing with a spouse, getting off work on a Friday or bowling with friends.

Through this list, it will be easier for those in recovery to recognize relapse triggers when they pop up, understand their own reactions and take the necessary steps to stay in control.

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You Can Change The World! by: Gina la Morte:

YOU. Yes, you, have everything inside of you to change the world. That world can be 7 billion people or that world can be 1 person. Sometimes the impact we have on one single individual is what literally does change the world or the world of somebody else! So when you think about your calling, your dreams, your purpose, sometimes all that awesomeness God put inside of you is to help make a difference in someone else’s world! Your dreams are designed to make a change. Make the world a prettier place, only in the way YOU were designed to do it! Isn’t that an exciting thought? So don’t look at your dreams as just simply selfish desires that you are striving for. Realize that your dreams, someway & somehow have the power to impact the world and truly make a difference! Follow your dreams, they lead to your destiny! (‪#‎myownrepost‬!) ‪#‎dreams‬‪#‎designingyourdream‬ ‪#‎book‬ ‪#‎worldchanger‬ ‪#‎you‬ ‪#‎change‬ ‪#‎difference‬‪#‎destiny‬ ‪#‎bohodreamacademy‬

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